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I’ve reached a point where I realize my friends are just acquaintances and I can’t even express my loneliness in life without people telling me I’m not lonely.
Damn it I am!!!
I spend my days alone with myself even if I’m surrounded by people at work or at home theres a pull inside me reminding me that I’m still alone. Like a snail hiding in its shell, like a hare I move from loneliness to happiness. I spend my days wishing for someone to ask what’s wrong and actually care about the answer.
I long for someone to just say I’m here for you without them texting someone else while I’m spilling my soul onto the table.
I want a friend who doesn’t judge me for what I say.
I just want to be heard.
Listened to.
Cared for.





Studies show that women apologize more than men, often for perfectly reasonable acts like, you know, taking up space. So watch this Pantene commercial here to inspire you to stop saying sorry for no reason. 

I’m normally skeptical of female empowerment being used for advertising, but this speaks to my soul that’s navigating the professional world right now

Goddamn I hate this shitty fucking ad.  As if women just spontaneously started apologizing for no reason and it has nothing to do with MISOGYNISTIC DOUBLE STANDARDS THAT PUNISH WOMEN FOR BEING CONFIDENT AND STANDING UP FOR THEMSELVES.  I am so fucking tired of being shamed for the psychological effects of living in a patriarchy.

I am an apologizer.  I never used to be.  I started apologizing after years of having it constantly reinforced that people hated me, that everyone thought I was overbearing, that I would always be penalized personally and professionally for taking up too much space.  I heard all the time about friends and colleagues calling me a bitch behind my back, and sometimes to my face.  I would love to be the kind of person who doesn’t let that shit get to me, but I’m a fucking human being, not a feminist cyborg who can destroy sexist stereotypes with my laser beam vision, so yeah, it got to me.  Now I apologize all the time and everyone tells me how pleasant and likable I am.  That is, when they’re not chastising me for apologizing too much.

So.  Everyone responsible for this bullshit fucking ad can go fuck themselves.  Women didn’t create sexism and shampoo isn’t going to get rid of it, the end.

Wait, I though this was commercial was showing exactly that, that it’s become so ingrained in our culture and is encouraging women to rise up against it. At least, that’s the vibe I got from it. Also, there are still a lot of guys whining about it and saying that women don’t really apologize more and this is just encouraging them to destroy men and take over the world or something.


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